eCureMe logo
  eCureMe home eCureMe log In Sign Up!
eCureMe Life : Your Healthy Living. Click Here!
Welcome, medical contents search April 25, 2013
       eCureMe Life
       Medical Supplies
       Calorie Count
       Physician Search
       Message Board
      E-mail Doctor
      E-mail Veterinarian
      Health-O-Matic Meter
      Calorie Count
      Natural Medicine
      Vitamins & Minerals
      Alternative Living
      My Health Chart
      Diseases & Treatments
      Atlas of Diseases
      Sexually Transmitted
Generic Viagra
      Drug Information
      Illegal Drugs
      Lab & Diagnostic Tests
      Internal Medicine
      Women’s Health
      Eye Disorders
      Skin Disorders
      Mental Health
      Resource Links
      Physician Directory
      Dentist Directory
      Hospital Directory

Sex Education

My son is getting his sex education on the Internet, and my daughter is curious, too.

A natural atmosphere about sexuality in the home is the key to healthy discussions about sex.

I have a daughter in the sixth grade and a son in the 8th. My daughter has already begun to take an interest in make-up and I have allowed her use eyeliner because all her girlfriends do. My son, meanwhile, spends most of his free time surfing the net, and we catch him browsing the adult sex sites. I have kept silent about this, afraid to embarrass him or make him angry by scolding or reprimanding him. I know this sounds silly, but I am worried about him learning about sex the wrong way, with the wrong take on women.

Parents should take responsibility for their children's sex education, and not leave it to the school's health education classes, or such an impersonal, ethic-free source as the Internet. The tacit avoidance of open discussions about human sexuality with your children is outdated and ridiculous. Europeans have always treated sexuality and nudity as normal aspects of life, and their children are healthier for it.

For some reason, despite an aura of promiscuity, we Americans have allowed our Puritan origins to cloud communication about sex, leading to a good deal of misunderstanding among our young, if not actual damage. Ask yourself this: would you rather have your daughter going behind your back to get birth control pills in order to have sex with her boyfriend when the time comes, or would you rather she felt comfortable enough to discuss it with you before making such a critical decision?

In this warp-speed computer age of accelerated exposure and maturation, parents have to take extra care to balance their children's "virtual" worlds with everyday, real relationships and human contact. Through your words and actions, teach your kids the things that they can't learn from others, the things that count most-your values.

And when the time comes for your son and daughter to start dating, set firm regulations for the time and circumstances of their contact with the opposite sex. As they earn your trust, reward them with more independence. Don't close your eyes and hope for the best like so many parents do who are afraid to confront their fears-you have a right to know who your kids are seeing and what they are doing. But do it in a mild, balanced, and considerate way. And start their education early, making it age appropriate.

When children of 6-9 years of age wonder how a baby is born, explain it to them in a way that addresses their level of maturity. To those who are exceptionally curious and ask a lot of questions, answer patiently, allowing them full range to their curiosity. While they may learn about human physiology and anatomy at school, explain things to them from your own point of view, in your own words, using the familiar, informal language you use around the home, father to son, and mother to daughter.

Don't let yourself be lulled into more permissive attitudes reflected by the media if you don't subscribe to them. It's so easy to subscribe by default to all the hype we are constantly bombarded with, when you what you really believe is more traditional. By way of illustration, there's a wonderful personal story passed on by James Dobson, distinguished American psychologist, about how he and his wife taught their daughter about sex and love. It goes like this.

When she was still a child, they offered her an expensive gold necklace with a little gold key attached, which they described as the key to her heart. The necklace was hers as long as she promised to save the key for the one man who truly deserved her love and respect. In this way, with this simple metaphor, they instilled in her the difference between love and sex, and the virtue of patience and choosing wisely.

So much of the heartache of promiscuity, unwanted pregnancy, forced marriage, lost dreams, and broken marriage could be avoided if parents would take a healthy, open attitude to educating their children about sex and contraception, while instilling values, instead of pushing the subject into the dark, or onto others.

Last of all, remember that so much of what your children incorporate into their approach to life is learned by your example. Teach your children well, for the lessons they take from you are for a lifetime.

medical contents search

Home   |   About Us   |   Contact Us   |   Employment Ad   |   Help

Terms and Conditions under which this service is provided to you. Read our Privacy Policy.
Copyright © 2002 - 2003 eCureMe, Inc All right reserved.