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The Guru Finds Peace by Spending Time with Depression.


November 9th, 2004

By Christopher Herz
The Health Guru / eCureMe LIFE




Check out your rear view mirror. Yeah, that’s October fading quickly away, which can only mean that the holidays you just seem to be recovering from are crossing quickly in front of you. For some, it’s family gatherings and fresh starts to the year. However, for others, it is also the highest rate of suicides in the country.


Apologies for getting so serious early on, but your Guru was deeply saddened last week.


As you know, your Guru also teaches and mentors during his free time.


Once of my younger students tried to kill themselves this past week.


When I heard that she was in the hospital after swallowing nearly 40 Advil, my heart stopped until I found out that, because she was found passed out on the floor, and taken to the emergency room at a local hospital, that she would be OK.


When I saw this student again, we sat down and she told me everything that was running through her head, the confusion she felt with relationships and having to be independent in the world, not to mention the pressure she felt from her family to succeed.


Perhaps the strangest thing that she said to me was that, after looking back, the reason she had killed herself was because of severe depression. When I asked her what it was that he she was depressed about, she responded with an "I don’t know."


After talking over some things with her, I went home, and for the next few days, fell into a state of depression myself. Sometimes when we listen to the problems of others, we take a little of the pain on ourselves, so be careful.


Now, understand that when you get to this state, the natural things we are conditioned to do are to be strong and fight through these feelings. We tell ourselves that there are many people in the world who have it worse.


In short, we don’t deal with our feelings of despair and loneliness, and instead, either throw ourselves into our work, our relationships our various substances and forms of entertainment that put a heavy dent into our sobriety.


Your Guru is here to tell you that it’s OK to feel sad. Actually, if you do not explore your feelings of sadness, how can you ever overcome them and bring yourself to a comfortable place. Now, I’m not telling you to draw your curtains and listen to Billie Holiday for months on end while rolling around in Take - Out and beer. Although once in a while, it is important to do that as well.


You need to explore your feelings. If you are sad, ask yourself why it is you feel that way. Going to others is fine, but the only person who can answer the questions that are keeping you awake deep into the cooling night is yourself. Often times we don’t ask ourselves these questions because the answers that await us are not what we wish to hear.


Too bad.


Do you ever ask yourself why you are sad? Once you have answered that, do you ask yourself why that makes you sad? Once you have that answer, do you think about it or turn on the television?


Explore your thoughts.


Make some tea, light some candles and put on some music that allows your mind to open up enough to fully explore your thoughts. You will usually find, after meditating on your problems, that the answer is right there. Once you have the answer, you can work on fixing that. That is when you can call your friends and get their advice.


It’s time to grow up and not call others looking for answers.


The likelihood is that it was something floating around in your subconscious that you weren’t even aware of. Now that you are, accept it, and move on with life, as suffering is as much a part of it as celebration. Sometimes, dealing with and expressing painful emotions can be even more fulfilling then a quick laugh.


After all, a deep understanding of Self is necessary to stand against the harsh change the world is about to take.


Time spent asking yourself and answering serious questions is more valuable than prime time television.


And for my student you ask? Well, she took the Guru’s advice and is not aware at what causes her to feel a certain way, and now is able to fight an enemy who has form, instead of one who creeps silently in the night.

Peace.

H.G.




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